A SHOUT-OUT TO YOU BOYS: WHY DATING THE ‘COOL GIRL’ IS NOT COOL AT ALL

A SHOUT-OUT TO YOU BOYS: WHY DATING THE ‘COOL GIRL’ IS NOT COOL AT ALL
Hey dude,
She?s cool, isn?t she? With her air-dried hair carelessly falling down, bursting into laughter at every joke you make. She doesn?t mind you burping right nearby, nor would she ever nag if you pick a football game over spending time with her at your flat. She?s into any type of sex and, fortunately for you, always seems to derive greatest pleasure from the poses you mostly enjoy.  She wouldn?t hesitate to reach out for a beer and listen to the banter with your lads. And gosh, rather than spending hours with her girlfriends on the phone, she?d rather pay attention to all you have to say about your latest FIFA game. She?s indeed the coolest chick you?d ever probably meet. And for what it?s worth: I really hope that?s the case.
 And no matter how much you want to believe that ?she?
exists, I?m sorry to break it to you: ?the cool girl? is not a girl at
all, it?s a syndrome – and it?s a hell of destructive one. Has it ever crossed your mind that the same way you and your mates would never have 100% matching interests, it?s quite impossible for her to
like a 100% of what you love to do?
And by claiming all of the above, I?m not at all implying
that she?d ever burp in front of you. No! While she doesn?t mind you doing that and for that matter
– often calling her ?dude?, ?the cool girl? is perfectly aware that ?burping girls? who swear are really not your
thing
.
 And don?t you worry, mate, your girl doesn?t pretend to be cool.
She instead mimics the persona you?d want to see ? and it?s
really only in your eyes that she’s ‘the
coolest’
 girl one could possibly be.
 And the thing is: you don?t really wanna date ?the cool girl?
(seriously, didn?t you learn your lesson after seeing ?Gone Girl’? … anyway), and
in reality neither does she wanna date you.
 Have I ever lost my mind and gone down the ?cool? lane too? Frankly I have. And even today I sometimes catch myself trying to mirror what the person next to me wants to see. But being quite opinionated and
free-spirited in my views, in no time I get sick and tired of trying to be
someone I’m not.
And don?t get surprised and confused when the image of your cool chick
begins to crack
right in front of your eyes and you finally find out what type of
person she actually is. Does the phrase ?Yeah, bro, we split up. She wasn?t that cool anyway? ring a bell? J
 So rather than looking for a girl who?d nod to all that you say ? go for a girl that since the start could genuinely express what she thinks and how she feels.
A girl who gets mad, a girl who cries, and most importantly a girl who isn?t
scared to speak up her mind, rather than play out that she?s all okay with you
coming home at 5 AM.
 And don’t you worry! You and your ‘cool chick’ would’ve never work out, as she secretly craves to stumble
upon someone who won?t be assessing her level of ?coolness? depending on how
?understanding? she is, but rather will be more than happy to take her and accept her with all her HUMAN traits J
Any thoughts on the ‘Cool Girl’ Syndrome?
Lots of love,
A.

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